The Integrity Course

You’ve probably been in a situation where you have kept your mouth shut when you really wanted speak up.

Why did you keep silent?

• Was it because you did not know how to make your point without embarrassing yourself or someone else?
• Or was it because you did not trust the person you were talking to?
• Were you avoiding some threat?

You’ve heard about a world where a man’s word was his bond, and a handshake closed a deal, and honor was foremost. That world may have existed once upon a time, but you and I, certainly don’t live in it now.

Why? Because too many people have trouble maintaining their integrity under pressure. And if you live in the 21st century you do live under pressure.


What is integrity anyway?

Integrity is about wholeness

Integrity is about values—it is about thoughtfully choosing your values and holding on to them despite the pressure you feel to compromise them.

Integrity is about using your values to guide your actions.

Integrity is about being willing to reexamine your values in the face of new information and to make a conscious decision about whether change is warranted.

Integrity is about respect. It is about self-respect and respecting others.

Integrity is about understanding differences.

Integrity is about believing in the basic, sound, underlying pattern of goodness, of wholeness in the world and in other people.

Integrity is about seeking that wholeness. It is about conversations that get through the surface junk and get to what is really important when we are together.

It is about facing each other and listening to each other and really hearing each other and taking the actions we know are necessary.

Integrity is the bedrock on which trust is built.

As you can see, Integrity it the hidden key to your success.

You know that’s really what you want! But so much gets in the way…


If you’re like me, you really don’t have time to read all the books you’d like to. But you still want the information in them, right?

A multi-media ecourse, delivered in digestible, bite-sized chunks is the answer. The links you need for each lesson will arrive in a weekly email.

I needed lots of help to do this, but I finally have these hidden secrets of success organized into a form in which you can use them.

• This ecourse contains the best of the information in What is the Emperor Wearing? Truth-Telling in Business Relationships plus my distinctions, observations and insights from seeing this info applied in all types of business relationships during the past 5 years.
• This ecourse gives you practical suggestions that you can practice from week to week.
• This ecourse lets you communicate with me and with your fellow students.
• This multimedia ecourse contains both written and audio material.
• This ecourse gives you 24 powerful stories of how real people have learned to maintain their integrity by being honest with themselves and each other despite the pressures of the workplace..
• This ecourse gives you the tools you need to hang on to your own integrity and even help others to bring their integrity to the table when they are relating to you.
  

You need to learn how to:

• Recognize and avoid the looming disaster that is actually caused by being a team player? (You’ll find this in lesson 5.)
• Gain the support and cooperation of annoying people by making them your allies. (Lesson 16)
• Regain your equilibrium when you know you know you’re in danger because of your own irrational reactions. (Find this in lesson 18.)
• Help others save face and ease the pain of a necessary confrontation with just four simple sentences. (This is in lesson 16.)
• Unleash the power that comes from understanding your own hidden agenda. (See lesson 4.)
• Invite thoughtful and truthful answers to your questions by following these steps.  (See lesson 16.)

You also need to learn how to:

• Capture the attention of someone who doesn’t want to listen to you. (See lesson 1.)
• Protect yourself from disaster by avoid the traps of discounting and denial—even when it’s hard. (This important information is in lesson 2.)
• Stop the destructive games people play at work using by following just eight steps. (Find this in lesson 4.)
• Get important information when you need it—without looking like a troublemaker. (Lesson 16)
•  Avoid being blindsided by hidden problems when you learn how to seek and accept valuable feedback. (See lesson 5.)
• Avoid frustration by following these five steps to help others maintain productive behavior. (See lesson 7.)

And you need to learn how to:

• Help others accept difficult information that they need but really don’t want to know about. (See the introduction, part 2.)
• Understand why people some people can’t help reacting in unusual ways—and what to do when you are the target. (This is in lesson 10.)
• Encourage integrity in others with three simple tools. (See lesson 10.)
• Accept help to avoid your own dangerous blind spots. (Find this in lesson 11.)
• Escape the codependency trap—even if you are already caught in it. (See lesson 12.)
• Use the most important tool of all for creating an atmosphere that encourages trust and truth telling. (Find this in lesson 14.)
• Hear the important but hidden information that almost always determines the real outcome of any conversation. The seven important steps you need are in lesson 14.
• Support everyone’s integrity by safely interrupting the defensive routines that keep people from discussing important but unpopular information. (See lesson 21.)
• Transform conflict into dialogue, using new operating agreements. (Find this in lesson 22.)