If you have been trying to grow your business to a certain level, attract new clients, create more passive income, or anything else with little progress or you take steps forward and then fall back again, you can be certain you are not yet in alignment with that desire.
This is not your fault.
You simply have not gotten to the core of the onion so to speak. “When we "get to the bottom" of something - finding its "root" or "kernel" of truth - we are finally exposing that which is most shielded from view.” And indeed, we all have things that are shielded from our conscious mind.
A prime example of this is when you shift one or more beliefs or doubts and make progress in one area but then a whole new layer of resistance shows up causing you to fall back again in that area or a different one. We often refer to this as self-sabotage. But that is a harsh term, as while we may observe this pattern we rarely understand why or know what to do about it.
It doesn’t matter if you are trying to go from earning 10K to 20K, or from $100,000 to $ 1 million or being sick to being healthy or being overweight to being fit and trim or anything else.
To determine what is at the core you have to be really honest with yourself AND MORE. Many of the thoughts and beliefs in the way are buried at a deep subconscious level. So you may think you desire something and believe you are worth it. But if it is not coming yet, there are conflicting beliefs that are buried.
So what to do? The best place to start is at a conscious level and then probe deeper. Focus on that thing that continues to elude you and ask yourself some questions. Here are some to start with:
- Do I really want ____ at this point in my life?
- Do I have some concerns about having it at this point in my life?
- Do I believe that having ____ conflicts with something that is of higher value to me?
- Do I have any fear about having it now or in the future? Do I believe I can handle it?
- Am I concerned about being judged for having this?
- Will I lose relationships? Will I get too much attention or not enough attention? Will people need me too much or not enough? What am I afraid of losing if I get this quality or thing?
- Do I believe that something outside of myself is preventing me form having this?
- Am I attached to how it must look?
The list goes on….
Sometimes all you need is the awareness that you attracted what you got or didn’t get due to your beliefs.
Sometimes you can use an energy technique such as EFT on a belief and it will disappear.
Sometimes you have to sit down and consciously search and find your beliefs, and then choose to let them go as you insert new ones in their place. There are some exercises to help with this in the
Living Your Dreams Guidebook. And sometimes it makes sense to hire a
Coach to help you get at the core of what is in your way, and to help you shift it.
The point, again, is that you and I are co-creating our reality with our beliefs.
If you haven’t attained the level of success you desire yet or are working too hard for not enough results, it’s not your fault and it’s not anyone else’s fault. Think of yourself as a computer program that may have bugs and viruses – you can delete the old program and rewrite it. Additionally, our internal programs automatically update over time as events happen in our life. Those new updates may cause you to function better and faster or improperly, perhaps at a slower speed than you would like. It is up to you to decide whether to keep them or delete them and replace with better updates.
This will greatly increase your likely of attaining your desires and even more importantly, enjoy your life more.
Notice if there are beliefs conflicting with your desires. Noticing is the first step to shifting. If you are not sure, get some support. Remember much of this can be subconscious.
