I love pairing words together in stimulating new ways, and have found that “Empowered Compassion™” really sparks my interest! Here’s why …
You know how delicious it feels when you experience inner balance AND you’re motivated to move forward? You are energized, empowered and quietly confident. From your place of balance and groundedness, you truly support yourself. You give yourself what you need and are nourished.
That’s because genuine self-empowerment is rooted in compassion. We thrive by being human, not by trying to be superhuman.
Empowered Compassion™! What images come to mind for you when you speak those words?
Allow your inner pictures to come into clearer focus and brighten as you continue to read this article. Let your own insights and associations rise and blossom. The more you envision ways that Empowered Compassion™ can work in your life, the more you activate its potential and help it to germinate.
Empowered Compassion™ can be thought of as yin and yang, or a pendulum swinging from acceptance to striving and back again. There’s a dynamic rhythm here; can you feel it?
Empowerment is the forceful yang, or masculine, component. When you empower yourself, your core strengths hold you upright and yet are flexible, like well-toned core muscles.
- You take pleasure in creating goals, large or small.
- You embrace challenges, knowing that solving problems supports your evolution.
- You are realistic and alert to life’s constant changes.
- You are defined and focused as you tend your boundaries. These boundaries protect the hours of your day as a force field of intentionality.
Compassion is the feminine, receptive yin. The measure of its strength isn’t so much in what it does as in what it holds.
- Because compassion holds everything without judgment, it helps you befriend and learn from mistakes. So you approach challenges with more curiosity and less fear.
- Your empathy towards yourself and others generates a healthy perspective – broad, deep and forgiving.
- Compassion is a powerful antidote to perfectionism. Your self-acceptance counters a host of perfectionist pests like fearful procrastination, over-polishing work, and people-pleasing. Think of how much time that frees up!
Empowered Compassion™ is a central component of Heart Based Time Management™. It offers each and every one of us a powerful path to bring our integrated strengths into each of our moments.
TIP: Empowered Compassion™ inspires you to advocate for yourself.
Self-care restores your energy and builds your self-esteem. So, pledge to yourself that you’ll schedule in restorative pastimes – and then keep that promise! If someone tries to pressure you into giving away that time, advocate for yourself by speaking up.
ACTION STEP: Think of one situation where you want to stand firm, but find yourself struggling. What are the messages that undercut your assertiveness? Can you pick out the self critical tone? How do you feel, hearing that voice?
Now, you can choose to shift the tone. Bring in the voices of compassion and realism to restore a healthy perspective.
For example, suppose a friend assumes you’ll babysit for her young children on short notice. Self-critically, you think, “I’d be selfish to say no.” Your voices of compassion and realism say, “I’m overextended, and I need to recharge my batteries.” So you tell your friend, “I’m sorry, but I won’t be able to help you. Would you like the name of a sitter?”
EXPLORATION: Empowered Compassion™ begins with liking yourself. You take pleasure in meeting your needs and feeding your spirit.
So, be aware of when you diminish yourself to take up less space. Empowered Compassion™ encourages you to blossom into your full self, rather than striving, straining, or shrinking to please others. You’ll experience new ease and spontaneity, entering more fully into each and every moment.
As you think over your day, identify times when you tend to become overextended and short-tempered. Give thought to how you might recognize those moments as opportunities to offer kindness to yourself.
The more you see with compassion, the more clearly you’ll see what truly works for you. Empowered with that knowledge, you can fine-tune your schedule and restore an expansive and heart-based flow to your life.© Copyright 2012 Paula Eder, Ph.D.