Finding time is especially challenging when you are facing changes. Maybe events take you quite by surprise. Or maybe you’re called upon to fill a new and demanding role. Each turning marks a transition, and life, offering so many lessons and potentials, can frequently loom much larger than your best laid plans.
So it’s helpful to affirm that you can always choose how you respond to whatever life presents. In fact, I’d like to invite you to welcome the demanding changes that come your way. It is empowering and transformative when you reframe them as special opportunities to grow and broaden your vision of life.
It’s so wonderful to assimilate and really own the fact that you transform yourself each time you make a transition. From the constancy of your inhalations and exhalations to the largest life choices you make, you are always in a state of transition.
Embrace it or not, an old way of moving through your day gives way to a new rhythm. A difficult decision asks you to define yourself more clearly. Your relationships with others shift and evolve as you experience transitions. Flux is the watchword. How do you act as your own good friend and guide during these times?
Care and compassion work wonders.
So first of all, treat yourself with special understanding. It is natural to feel off balance, especially when big changes loom, so proceed with care. Affirm to others (and to yourself!) that significant learning, though welcome, can temporarily upset your equilibrium. Encourage yourself to move forward in small steps, with eyes wide open. This enhances your balance, as well as your learning!
See if you can set aside a few quiet times during the day when you are processing an especially big transition. Even fifteen minutes free from disturbances helps.
When you return to your inner, tranquil center, you reinforce that you are with yourself, no matter what. This affirmation of self-care stands you in good stead, no matter what the circumstance. From that place of inner peace and power, you can weigh options that help you grow without overextending yourself. When you allow yourself extra time to assimilate changes, you greatly increase your chance of making a successful transition.
Learning about your unique approach to transitions can help you create a pathway of power that is both grounded and balanced.© Copyright 2012 Paula Eder, Ph.D.