Are you ready to create fresh potentials for yourself and your time? Here’s an opportunity to explore what currently holds you back!
You can gather profound insights by traveling to your roots. From your first breath, your family’s time choices shaped you. Their time legacy still moves through you like an invisible force – until you turn the spotlight on it!
As you investigate your time legacy, certain discoveries might surprise you. No matter what, you can rest assured that whatever you learn, you can put directly to work in your life by developing a more conscious, heart-based relationship with your own time choices.
Exercise: Your Family Legacy – What Makes Yours Unique?
Here’s a simple fill-in-the blank exercise for you. Add in other family members too, if they influenced your early development around time.
1. My mother/father spent lots of time _________ no matter what.
2. My mother/father always wanted to __________ but never took the time.
3. My mother/father spent more time __________ when stressed.
4. I liked the way my mother/father always took time to _______.
5. I felt valued when my mother/father spent time __________.
6. When I was younger, I promised myself I’d never spend time __________the way my mother/father did.
7. When I look at where my life feels out of balance and think of my mother/father’s time choices, I see that ____________.
What do you discover from completing this exercise?
What are the surprises?
Which of your family’s time choices do you carry with you, and how do you see yourself using them in your life?
Some of your discoveries may be bittersweet. But they are always freeing! And remember that the more compassionately you view their time choices (and yours), the more possibilities open up to you.
Consider dipping into this exercise over time. See what bubbles up today, tomorrow … and don’t forget to ask your dreams for their input, too!
As you let your feelings guide you, new avenues open up, deep within you. Who knows what fresh and inspiring ways you’ll find to use time!
TIP: Mixed messages speak loudest.
Did a family member say one thing about time and then do something completely different? Contradictory messages that confused you as a child can easily lead to “disconnects” in later life.
ACTION STEP: Do you struggle to match your time choices with your expressed values?
If so, think back to when you heard or witnessed mixed messages about time from those you looked up to. Describe your recollections of these conflicts and then record the feelings you hold about each one. Most likely, as you come back to this over time, patterns will emerge.
EXPLORATION: Patterns tell tales.
Maybe stories from your parents’ lives carry clues about your current situation. Go straight to your heart. What past incidents narrow your sense of possibilities?
Explore your feelings about each one. Be compassionate as you look at the impact these events and messages have had on your time choices. Then remind yourself, from a grounded, adult, factual place, that “Now is different.”
Taking this as a starting point, next envision a path to more rewarding time choices! Ask your intuition about how to walk this path and align your deeds with your words.
Gradually, as you do this work, a new and more rewarding pattern will emerge!© Copyright 2012 Paula Eder, Ph.D.