You feel it as soon as you wake up. Some mornings, you glow with confidence. You make the most of your time! It’s like you’re running on premium fuel.
But what happens the very next day? Suddenly, you’re overwhelmed, dispirited, and time speeds by. What’s even worse, the pessimism you wrestle with feels every bit as real as the optimism you enjoyed before!
What’s going on? How can the energizing world of opening possibilities and the world of time scarcity and frustration coexist?
The answer lives inside you.
Maybe they are too quiet to hear right now, but killer time lies may have been sapping your initiative and potential for years.
The good news is that some simple steps can change your relationship with time, and with these depleting time lies. How? By using powerful realism.
I’ll describe one all-too-common killer time lie. Then I’ll offer you practical steps to deflate it.
Killer Time Lie: “I’ll Never Have Enough Time to Live Well!”
Reality: You Create Your Own Time Energy™!
What makes this a killer time lie, when it feels like it’s being proven over and over, one frustrating day after another?
Any “prediction” that discounts your enormous
personal power is a killer time lie!
When negativity paralyzes you, you remove your life energy, your initiative and your creativity right out of the day’s equation. But you can correct this by adding your positive purposeful energy back in!
Certainly, everyone would like more time. But you can assertively refuse to let a scarcity mentality about time doom you to constant feelings of frustration and ineffectiveness.
Living well is an immediate energy you generate.
It’s a self-fulfilling prophecy of success. Each time you make a wise time choice, you enhance your personal power. This power resonates through you, here and now. And that’s all the time you need to live well – the very moment you are in – focused, realistic and engaged!
3 Concrete Steps to Deflate Your Killer Time Lie:
Step#1: Actively create quality of life in the moment.
Manifest what is of top importance to you right now, through your power of prioritizing. Refuse to trivialize the importance of your decision-making.
Step #2: Confront the killer time lie directly.
This is an adventure of assertiveness. Time lies that diminish you live inside you. This tells you that at some point in your life, you made a home for this time lie. Your task now is to ferret out this home and remove it, and Step #3 offers you a simple, powerful way to do so.
Step #3: Compassionately revise your relationship with time and power.
Old stubborn patterns of thought need to be dislodged, and one of the most effective ways to gain leverage is by conducting a payoff search. Here’s a good question to start your search: “What does it ‘give’ me to tell myself that I will never have enough time?”
Don’t think too carefully – just quickly jot down anything and everything that comes to mind. The answers may surprise you! By consciously naming and then refusing each particular payoff in the future, you help oust the illusion of time scarcity from your subconscious.
When you liberate your Time Energy™ from killer time lies, you begin one of life’s most profound adventures. Exercising your power of choice helps you harness the power of time. You make time choices that align with your priorities more often. And when your effectiveness reflects your priorities, you enjoy being yourself, right here and right now.
A practical tip and action step to help you deflate another one of your killer time lies. Discover just how much energy you can reclaim!
TIP: Conduct a “Sour Scan”
To create a direct path to your power, it really helps to spot where it’s blocked.
Habitual laments, defeatist scripts, and blame-a-thons are like neon signs that point to trapped energy and misdirected potential.
ACTION STEP: Focus on one hot spot to convert sour to power.
This killer time lie steals your time by casting you as a victim without choices. So examine one specific negative tape that traps your energy and time – for example, “I’ll never get caught up with my paperwork!”
To reclaim your power, record a new script for your inner tape, and make your ability to choose the featured star!
- Brainstorm your options.
- Create daily action steps that are easy to accomplish and check off. (For example, you might spend 15 minutes daily filing records.)
- Claim each day of follow-through as the victory it is!
- Work with this one drain upon your time and energy until you restore your momentum and create a healthy habit.
- Notice (and celebrate) how this affects your confidence and your energy level.
As you identify a killer time lie that’s a frequent visitor, you may discover that it’s deeply rooted. Bringing curiosity to this challenge helps you make fresh discoveries and maintain your forward momentum.
For example, you might ask yourself:
- Who did I know as a child who lived out this killer time lie (or one very much like it)?
- What time choices will change when I deflate this killer time lie?
- What gains will I experience when I stop believing this killer time lie?
Let’s say you procrastinate and then scramble to get things done. Oh yes, Mom did that, too!
To change this pattern, you need to deflate the message you give yourself that “There’s plenty of time … just relax!” Then access a more realistic and helpful choice and include your action steps on your daily To Do List and calendar. What’s the result? You prepare well and avoid costly oversights, and then you truly can relax without a jarring wake-up call!
Once you give this a try, you’ll see how easy it is to build up your time in small, manageable, and SUCCESSFUL steps.© Copyright 2012 Paula Eder, Ph.D.