In the moments before the room filled the thought flashed through my mind. It was the expression of doubt, lack of confidence and failure. It had a tangible emotional and physical effect in that moment.
So, what’s the difference between what you felt then and the people who don’t believe in themselves at all, he asked.
Well, I answered, it depends on what wins in terms of your feelings, thoughts and actions, what is the driving force? Is it the thoughts connected to doubt and failure, or do you get rid of those debilitating thoughts and strengthen your beliefs and let that positive force lead you? Do you choose to empower yourself with self-belief and confidence or give in to doubt?
My partner was in the room. He could feel the tension and nervousness, he sensed that I went into myself for that preparation time and did something that made a difference.
As the room filled beyond capacity, what emerged was, in his words, a transformation. I was confident, comfortable and calm. He said, suddenly you created something new, you brought your subject to life, you were inspiring and the people in the room seemed to be quenching a great thirst as they soaked up the knowledge you provided.
So what exactly happened in those precious moments?
Well, firstly, what was the thought? I can tell you that it was very simple, it always is. It goes something like this –
Who wants to hear a silly story? or..Are you kidding yourself, these guys are too sophisticated (or experienced, or educated or rich..you can chose!) or..why would they want to listen to me? Or..who am I to think that I can teach them something Or..is the material really as good as I think Or..what if I forget my stuff
You see there is no end of self-sabotaging stories that we tell ourselves, the question is how do we get rid of them, what can we do to make ourselves strong, confident and really shine?
There are four areas that you need to cover; physical, intellectual, spiritual and emotional.
Your physical preparation should be to acknowledge your nervousness for the positive effect that it has on you. The rush of adrenalin gives you wonderful energy that you can channel into a positive force for your work.
Also, you can recite some tongue twisters and pull funny faces so you stretch and warm up your facial muscles and voice.
You can jump a few times or take a fast walk, or pat down your body (cup both hands and work up from your feet to you head); choose what feels right for you so that you get this positive energy flowing through your body.
Your intellectual preparation involves simply knowing your stuff! You need to practice, practice, practice and then when you’re sure you know your material perfectly, you need to practice some more!
Your spiritual preparation involves connecting to that higher place (whatever you choose to call it!) and acknowledge this presence in your life, in the room and within you. Once you feel connected you can enjoy the sense of blessing and abundance within you and your ability to share that with your audience.
And finally your emotional preparation; I recommend a mantra. For me it’s simple. ‘Trust the stories, trust the process, trust’. I repeat this in my head in the last few moments before I start, and it gets me right where I need to be.
Part of my emotional preparation for this specific event was in knowing that my partner was in the room and witnessing this transformation. It got me thinking how often the people we chose to spend our lives with, our partners, family and best friends, never actually get to see us in this moment of great passion, focus and clarity doing what clearly we were always meant to do.
What happens when they see the transformation, when they witness you at your best, radiating the joy of whatever it is that makes you shine.
When there is this quiet, appreciative support, it’s almost like a shadow in the room; an angel that protects and guides you with love, seeing you as your true higher self. It is a blessing.
Have you ever shared that amazing moment with someone meaningful in your life?
What is your practice that gets your performing at your best?© Copyright 2011 Lisa Bloom