In a world where so much lies beyond our control, it’s good to know that your Time Gremlins are completely dependent upon you. They use your energy and they hitchhike rides on your plans, trying to scoot under your radar.
They’re smart, these Time Gremlins! But you can be smarter. To outwit 3 of the trickiest Time Gremlins, here’s a handy identification guide, with antidotes furnished for each one.
Gremlin #1 coaxes you to empower others. Maybe you try to please others in the hope of receiving favors in return. Maybe you lack confidence in proceeding independently. But whenever you place others’ priorities ahead of your own, you lose power to plan effectively.
To create an antidote to Gremlin #1, ask yourself:
* What new challenges will you face when you put yourself first?
* What scares you?
* How will you grow by meeting these new challenges?
* How will you become more clearly defined?
Gremlin #2 suggests procrastinating. Maybe the payoff of this self-sabotage is your doing something immediately more enjoyable, or simply putting a problem out of your mind. Then again, maybe you rationalize that you work “best” under pressure. But the unfinished business hangs heavy, poisoning your pleasure.
To create an antidote to Gremlin #2, ask yourself:
* If you decide to stop procrastinating, what will end?
* If you decide to stop procrastinating, what will begin?
* What first step can you commit to right now?
Gremlin #3, a sneaky form of self-sabotage, is the voice of entitlement. It tells you that you should be excused from unwanted tasks. One time, it may tell you it’s because you are “special”. Another time, it tells you that some misfortune you’ve suffered relieves you from having to step up to the plate. But trapping yourself in this way costs you competence ,confidence, and self-respect.
To create an antidote to Gremlin #3, ask yourself:
* Would you rather be “special” or powerful?
* What opportunities do you miss by claiming special status?
* What tough time decisions will win you your freedom?
Now mobilize!© Copyright 2011 Paula Eder, Ph.D.