Time management tips celebrate life? Certainly! Dissolve your procrastination blues by becoming a better friend to yourself. Then you can celebrate the boost in your morale along with your enhanced productivity.
Think of procrastination as frozen initiative. Like a traveler in harsh weather, you curl in on yourself. You wrap your defenses so tightly around you that you can barely budge. Yet you keep directing icy blasts of pressure on yourself to move forward! Ironically, this ensures that you will remain stuck.
What if you copied the Sun’s strategy instead? She won the wager with the North Wind by beaming upon the traveler until he freely shed the overcoat that the North Wind failed to pry loose with arctic assaults. You, in turn, can move forward by easing the pressure you routinely place on yourself. Ask yourself a friendly question, instead.
Just 1 Friendly Question Can Dissolve the Procrastination Blues
This is an ideal approach when your usual efforts to become more organized and proactive collide with an ice wall of resistance. It’s most helpful to realize that the resistance is there for a reason. It is a message to yourself that something… your values, your goals, or your perceptions, perhaps, are not fully aligned.
It is always the voice within you that you routinely ignore that provides the path to progress. Perhaps the voice expresses a fear you would rather disown. Or maybe there is a buried dream that you have dismissed as impractical, still competing for your attention. Could it be that completing this project will bring you face to face with a more daunting challenge? One thing you can be sure of. The answer to your question will help you round out your approach to your life, and enable you to become a better friend to yourself.
To prepare, relax and let worries and self-reproach fall away. Take a long step away from the time management struggle. Feel your heart space open, and breathe into it until your annoyance with yourself fades.
Ask yourself with genuine curiosity, “What will happen if I get started?” or “What am I waiting for?” And open to whatever answer surfaces.
Imagine you are listening to a close friend respond. Let any judgment or censorship evaporate. Write down the answer or answers that come up for you. How does your perspective change?
Now you are ready to move ahead to tackle the clarified issues realistically.
Asking a friendly question will always elicit helpful information. The reassuring goes a long way toward overcoming self-critical attitudes that often compound the confusion underlying procrastination.
Now, what is your next step to move from paralysis to progress?© Copyright 2010 Paula Eder, Ph.D.