Time management tips reward you twice as richly when you listen closely to yourself. You provide a spark and sparkle to your day by giving yourself this quality of attention. Remember that you are the one person who always has the power to revitalize your life.
This is especially useful when you just can’t seem to budge on an important task. Asking yourself questions and listening carefully to your answers will almost always help your brain transition from old ruts to new routes.
Your goal is to call upon your mind’s innate flexibility rather than to stay mired in a rut. Many states of mind contribute to feeling stymied, of course. Fear, perfectionism, self-criticism, and resentment are just a few contributors. Fortunately, they share distortions that the right questions can help evaporate.
Three Questions to Jump Start Your Resourcefulness:
1. What does my stuck place look like?
Images you generate will provide you with a wealth of fresh insights. What picture comes to mind? A wall? Quicksand? A roadblock? Does a figure or animal block your path? There are messages here, so look for clues. Use your ingenuity to proceed beyond this visualized obstacle. How can you translate this approach into a strategy that might move you one step beyond your impasse? If the project is a long-range one, ask yourself at bedtime for a dream that sheds further light on the issue.
2. Where am I hiding my power?
Your storehouse of patience, original thinking and persistence is in there somewhere. What you need to do is access it, and to identify what covers it up. Again, envisioning your power calling out to you as you explore beyond the resistance, resentment and conditionality can be very inspiring! You may even decide to relinquish some of what stands between you and your progress. Maybe you will discard an unrealistically high standard, or an excuse you no longer wish to rely upon.
3. What is this impasse giving me?
This is a great question for when you’re really stuck. Ask this of yourself with friendly curiosity rather than with blame. Then, you are much more likely to get an answer that is on the mark. Your secondary benefit is that you will understand on a gut level that you are always exercising power. And you can redirect your energy to moving forward on your project, once you weigh the actual pros and cons of spinning your wheels. This question also enables you to recall old bargains you may have made with yourself years ago. Once you put words to these deals and recognize how circumstances have changed, rewriting those old scripts can proceed quite quickly!
Moving beyond impasses is self-actualization on a high level. You emerge with more confidence, clarity and enthusiasm! If you find these questions helpful, try printing them out, so you can refer to them the next time you start spinning your wheels. If it’s helpful to you, put the questions in your own words. The more actively you engage in this exercise, the more you will reward yourself.
Now, how will you move to your next level of effectiveness to make the very most of your time?© Copyright 2010 Paula Eder, Ph.D.