Time management tips have to take root in your brain to take charge of your time. As soon as you reduce regrets and second-guessing, you stop spinning your wheels! Here are 3 ways to maintain forward momentum.
#1: Let Go Of “Could Have/ Would Have/ Should Have… “
“For of all sad words of tongue or pen, the saddest are these: ‘It might have been!'”
John Greenleaf Whittier
Painful ruminating is fueled by your desire to control how others see you. Let’s look at 3 ways you work against yourself when you obsess about the impression you make:
1. You make others’ opinions more important than your own.
2. You don’t take the time to assess situations independently.
3. You can’t tend to your present needs while spinning defensively.
Remember, it’s neither helpful nor possible to influence how others perceive you.
#2: Give Reality The Most Prominent Place In Your Life.
“Thinking something does not make it true. Wanting something does not make it real.””
Do you rehash old conversations, dredging up others’ statements about yourself that feel unfair?
Well, there is nothing remotely realistic about power struggling to revise others’ opinions about you. It’s a time waster designed for self-punishment. So let go of alternate scenarios for a long-gone past. Instead, shift your perspective. As you think of others’ words that stopped you cold, tell yourself:
“Either it’s true or it’s not.”
If it’s true, it’s entirely natural that others feel that way and express it.
If it’s not true at all, what they are saying carries no objective weight.
By making reality paramount, you keep your feet on solid ground.
#3: Assume Ownership of Your Self-Criticism.
The thief of time isn’t trying to break down your front door. It cuts away at your life right inside you – quite often on a daily basis. All those insults you fear are directed to you by others? They are names you call yourself.
You can’t escape yourself and you don’t need to. Reclaim power over your time and your self-esteem by confronting this inner critic of yours.
“Turning to face my fears, I discover the warrior within.”
As you take responsibility for self-doubt, your entire understanding of the world around you shifts. Save time once earmarked for second-guessing. Redirect it to assess your options squarely and to proceed. You needn’t spend another minute with past regrets, self-consciousness or resentment for others. As you give these up, you’ll more likely enjoy the present moment and take pleasure in your accomplishments!© Copyright 2013 Paula Eder, Ph.D.