Time management tips can lead to life-expanding opportunities. That’s because making tough decisions about your time helps you to build courage and decisiveness. So instead of letting fear or external pressures push you down a path you’ll regret, ask yourself a friendly question that fights urgency. Urgency, and the fear that drives it, is one of the biggest enemies of your priorities.
Think of how good you feel when you are energized, alert and confident! You easily say no to distractions. You meet your challenges, and flow from one task to the next. And you can bask in that special glow when you review everything you got done. You close out your day feeling content and grateful.
But then, along comes a day when a gale force wind seems to toss all your plans into the air. You lose hold of your plans, trying to handle the emergency that just crossed your desk. And that’s not all. Your productivity stalls, ideas dry up, and you feel desperate and on edge.
When you feel pushed to act faster than you can think, fear may be stealing your time. The more carefully you look, the more indicators you might find. And you may be quite surprised by what starts the whole whirlwind in motion.
Fear-fueled urgency is a sneaky time thief, because it’s disguised as a desire to save time. You might hear yourself say, “I’ve just got to do this RIGHT NOW!”
Yet, as you have probably learned, when you do jump in impulsively, you can commit time-consuming errors! Although urgency might appear to be brash, really, it is a fear-induced behavior. Use this wisdom to stop urgency in its tracks.
Urgency Antidote: Next time you feel like leaping first and looking later, simply ask yourself:
What are 3 good alternatives to rushing ahead?
- Notice how this process helps you refocus on your own abilities. Concentrating on your areas of capability reduces anxiety. In the act of solving problems, you are experiencing your abundant resourcefulness, instead of fearing a loss from somewhere out there.
- Considering new options also encourages you to take a fresh look at the situation. Perhaps you will see things you overlooked when you were in overdrive. And those details might be just what you need to keep you on track to success.
- For example, you politely decline to commit to a special one-day-only offer that you have not personally researched. By taking the time to weigh pros and cons, you discover that the deal in question would not fully meet your needs. Furthermore, you locate resources already on hand for completing part of the project independently and economically.
It may seem counter-intuitive, but slowing down and asking yourself timely questions can save you a lot of time!
Now, how can you apply this to your life today to win back some of your time?© Copyright 2011 Paula Eder, Ph.D.