Time management tips are useless – without courage to back them up! You must risk others’ resistance and resentment on occasion, in order to accomplish what’s of prime importance to you. Call on your courage anytime you need to stand up for significant priorities and set boundaries to protect your valuable time.
Every day presents opportunities to cultivate more courage. Don’t allow yourself be swallowed up by external demands, only to be spit out exhausted and on edge! See how walking with wise heart opens new, fresh paths for you.
As the following quote suggests, significant risking and willingness to live with the consequences is the foundation of meaningful living. Courage helps you be your best in all areas of your life.
“Courage is not simply one of the virtues but the form of every virtue at the testing point.” C.S. Lewis
Tips for Living With Courage
Here are several tips to make the most of your time by building courage – one of the finest time management tools you can use:
Courage is at its heart proactive.
Enter the tumult of your busy day with a clear sense of your worth. Since your health and peace of mind are of prime importance, commit to protect these in the face of countless temptations and demands.
At the beginning of each day, picture what you will be doing, and how each choice will move you forward. Identify which activities may be threatened by others’ demands. Then decide how you will respond to requests and emergencies. Generating a clear picture of your own power of choice provides valuable perspective and fuels assertiveness.
Courage frees you and others to be genuine.
It can feel like quite a risk to let go of pastimes you adhere to primarily to please others. It’s helpful to keep in mind that no matter how many hours you invest in trying to accommodate others’ wishes, you can’t “make” them happy. Nor are you responsible if they are displeased when you choose to spend your time elsewhere. When you respect their right to respond to you as they choose, and not how you want them to, you create space for everyone to relate authentically.
Courage provides you with inner balance amidst demands.
Of course, courage to say “No” to others does not mean distancing them. On the contrary, as you become more attuned to your own needs, you can also appreciate others’ wishes and preferences. This helps you relate with sensitivity while keeping your own priorities protected.
Heart-based time management means you say “No” clearly when you need to protect your time. Yet you also extend yourself, reaching out in caring ways as your schedule allows. Your authenticity and realism take precedence over giving in to demands that leave you overextended and resentful.
Courage evolves as you deepen.
Courage grows incrementally, and you build it one choice at a time.
It becomes multidimensional as you articulate who you are, slowly and steadily. The farther you send down roots of self-loyalty, the more you can branch out in new directions.
So any time you feel your life is lacking in vitality and resonance, ask yourself if there are ways you can extend yourself by calling on your courage and taking new risks to find time for what matters most.© Copyright 2012 Paula Eder, Ph.D.