Time management tips always center on one thing – your power over your time. So let’s look at 7 Simple Steps to reframe ways you routinely give away your power over time.
1. Your Power Over Your Time Hides Beneath Your Resentments.
It’s easy to resent others when you struggle with where your time goes.
How often do you think, “If only he/she weren’t so:
I’d have enough time!”?
2. Each Source Of Anger Points To Time You Can Retrieve
Regaining your power over your time begins with paying close attention to each angry thought. Who are you resenting? Well, inside you there is a treasure map of untapped potential. And to locate each site, just notice each source of anger you harbor that doesn’t go away.
3. To Tap Your Power, Burst Some Illusions.
You grow to make powerful time choices when you reframe how you describe problems.
Each time you reframe situations to feature your power of choice, you stimulate your creative problem-solving ability.
For example, let’s say you feel hemmed in by others’ weekly demands on you. You habitually think, “I’ll never have time to do what matters to me so long as I’m asked to run errands for them.” You change this to, “I’ve chosen to respond to these demands automatically. I’ll suggest that they explore other options. Once a month, I’m willing to help out.”
This power is not unlocked until you turn the key.
4. Claim What You Give.
Think of each circumstance in which someone takes your time. Now reframe this as “I’m giving them my time.” That’s the reality – no one can make you spend one second more than you agree to spend on any activity. So explore what makes you choose to give your time. Weigh the benefits and the costs. Then you position yourself to consider fresh options.
5. Invest Time To Learn How To Retrieve Time.
Years have gone into the patterns of time choices you have developed. Expect to invest some time in re-routing your time map. Making changes might feel like pulling up a plant with an extensive root system! Since many habitual time drains carry a heavy burden of back history, you will probably dig up unspoken expectations and trade-offs.
However, with patience, you can untangle anything. So jot down each issue as it surfaces. By paring it down into separate “chunks”, you keep the situation from becoming overwhelming.
6. Start Small And Keep Going.
Begin by identifying the least highly charged issue that ties up your time. Ask yourself:
What’s the worst thing that could realistically happen if you no longer give over your time?
What strengths would you need to develop?
What might be the long-term benefits?
7. Clean Your Relationships To Clear Your Time.
Remember to count the benefits of clarifying your relationships. Each time you refuse to rely on obligation, guilt or fear to get things accomplished, you support re-negotiating and increasing trust. What can be a better use of your time than that?
A fresh outlook will realign your motivation and taps your hidden power to live powerfully! Give yourself every opportunity to experience this firsthand. Satisfaction reinforces commitment.
Now, what is your next step to make the very most of your time?© Copyright 2013 Paula Eder, Ph.D.