Time management tips are strategies that keep bold new plans from fading into guilt and regret. This proven approach gets results! Learn how to craft intentions that support you and enhance your self-esteem. When you practice daily, you create a healthier relationship with time!
Go From Discouraged to Decisive in 3 Simple Steps.
1. Focus on Incremental Progress and Factor in Rewards.
If your goals are unspecific and highly conditional, perhaps you are judging yourself. Hurtful self-talk like, “You’re not worth the effort” or “You never follow through anyway” is distorted and undercuts your initiative!
Learn how to intercept and neutralize these put-downs. And as a practical, concrete counter-move, construct your goal using a flexible framework with well-defined, short-term benchmarks! Any plan can be divided into measurable, achievable benchmarks that you accomplish in a single setting. Reinforce each landmark with rewards to keep your incentive high, and consider creating mantras to remain on course.
2. Allow Your Goals to Evolve with You.
If your goals undercut your confidence, they may also blind you to important lessons along the way. So turn your gaze from your imagined outcome.
Focus on your actual experience now.
A process approach grounds you in the present, where you exercise full power to choose. This changes your relationship with yourself, as well as with time. Note direction not destination. And pay attentions to each step you take.
Do these objectives affirm you or haunt you? The energy you dedicate to creating self-enhancing goals makes all the difference. For example, if you want to build your aerobic capacity, raise the benchmark no more than 10% every six weeks. This is far more likely to succeed that trying to match someone else’s progress. In 3 months, assess what exercises work best for you. Build from there.
When you generate an open-ended goal, you spare yourself needless stress. Revise it as needed to ensure it stays relevant. This keeps your project fresh. As you pace yourself well, you’ll incorporate what you learn along the way with more ease. Create your goals the way you’d like to live your life.
3. Make Absolutely Sure Your Goals Are Realistic.
Over-ambitious goals can make you stumble. If you throw yourself into high-intensive aerobics after months of inactivity, you make time your enemy. Reject self-punishing ordeals.
Remember: an abundance mentality is creative and self-affirming.
If you feel caught up in “the urgency of your imperfections”, relax. Recall any and all progress you’ve made recently. Support your personal growth proven methods.
Finally, identify your current strengths as you work at a pace you can sustain.
What To Do With the Goals You Never Met?
Turn fizzled goals into guide posts
Remember that former resolutions hold valuable lessons for you, especially when they are unmet!
Consider reviewing a past resolution anytime you plan to create a new one. Your patterns are like lesson plans. Why not track their course and learn from the destination? Whenever you identify a dead-end, see how that helps you chart future paths.
Compassion is your best traveling companion as you review steps you took and the constellation of lessons. You may identify myths that have echoed through generations! Carefully note promises you made to yourself that were triggered by severe disappointment, competitive feelings, or self-judging.
When everything is a lesson, you are always in the right place. So fully enjoy where and who you are. You’ll find this the best way to plan and make the most of your time.© Copyright 2014 Paula Eder, Ph.D.