You know those days when you wonder why on earth you are still doing this job, this work, this relationship, this blog.
The days when you think, who’s out there, who cares. What difference does it make.
The days when you forget the reason, you forget your story, you forget your vision, you forget your brilliance.
And then there are the days when everything is crystal clear. When you just shine.
When your purpose, actions and outstanding results are all perfectly aligned.
I got to thinking about the ‘when’ and ‘how’ and ‘what ifs’ about these two opposite states.
And then this week I was given a gift from a super-bright student, a reminder of a wonderful story.
I was reminded of the Cherokee Legend called “Grandfather Tells” which is also known as “The Wolves Within”.
This is the story.
An old Grandfather said to his grandson, who came to him with anger at a friend who had done him an injustice, “Let me tell you a story.
I too, at times, have felt a great hate for those that have taken so much, with no sorrow for what they do.
But hate wears you down, and does not hurt your enemy. It is like taking poison and wishing your enemy would die. I have struggled with these feelings many times.” He continued, “It is as if there are two wolves inside me. One is good and does no harm. He lives in harmony with all around him, and does not take offense when no offense was intended. He will only fight when it is right to do so, and in the right way.
But the other wolf, ah! He is full of anger. The littlest thing will set him into a fit of temper. He fights everyone, all the time, for no reason. He cannot think because his anger and hate are so great. It is helpless anger, for his anger will change nothing.
Sometimes, it is hard to live with these two wolves inside me, for both of them try to dominate my spirit.”
The boy looked intently into his Grandfather’s eyes and asked, “Which one wins, Grandfather?”
The Grandfather smiled and quietly said, “The one I feed.”
Which of the wolves do you feed?
It is the wolf of exhaustion, self-doubt and disbelief. Or is it the wolf of optimism, energy and generosity?
Maybe if we figured out HOW we feed our bright, smart, harmonious wolf then we could do it more often.
I’ll start. I fed mine at the beach this week, running with the kids, watching the sun set and allowing myself be looked after by everyone else when I was sick.
How do you feed yours?© Copyright 2011 Lisa Bloom