Who are you attracting into your life and your business? Have you thought about it? How and why are these people showing up?
I was sitting in a sparsely populated lecture hall, waiting for the professor to arrive. I liked getting there early, choosing to sit right in the middle, about 4 rows back from the front.
A woman arrived just after me and shuffled in carrying lots of heavy-looking books in her arms. She sat 3 seats away from me in the row in front. She put her books down, turned to me and said “Good morning!” and smiled broadly.
I had noticed her before, paid attention to the smart comments she gave in class and the quick wit that I loved and recognized. In that moment, I knew what I had to do.
“We should be friends,” I said “hi, I’m Lisa and I’d love to invite you to a party I’m having next week, you will come, won’t you?”
Over 20 years later, we are still the best of friends!
This is not the only time I’ve done this, followed my curiosity or my heart, my passion or my desire in order to connect with people in the moment. Sometimes it works wonderfully, sometimes less so!
When you meet someone new, often you get an instant feeling, good or bad. Do you act on it?
There is a part of us all that sometimes just wants to be the little child. We want to go up to that cool person, the popular one, or the pretty one, or the smart one and simply say “will you be my friend?”
Why don’t we do it?
We feel a really strong connection and then we run away.
What’s that about?
Well, there’s always:
- “What if they say no?”
- “What if they’re really mean underneath the nice exterior?”
- “What if I’m wrong and I get hurt?”
- “How can I know for sure that they want to be friends too?”
The truth is we can’t know for sure. But isn’t it worth the try?
When we stop ourselves reaching out and instead act based on our fears of what might happen (or might not), we are losing touch with that magic energy that simply connects like with like.
We are drifting from our crystal clear understanding of what is good for us and what we know to be true.
Yes, you’re right, sometimes we get it wrong. Sometimes we’re seduced by something that is not what it seems. But more often, we are too scared to reach out and touch what we are clearly meant to connect with.
The times that I have acted on this impulse and reached out to connect has created some of the most meaningful relationships in my life and in my business.
When you are clear about your desires, intentions and who you are, when you know your story, it’s easy to connect in a meaningful way.
When you show interest in others, you become the most interesting person in the world.
When you show curiosity and generosity, you receive wonderful gifts.
When you live in gratitude, you live in abundance.
Go on, act on that impulse, reach out, tell your story and listen to theirs.© Copyright 2011 Lisa Bloom