Why Most People Fail at Their Goals

By , The Results Lady, Social Media and Online Marketing Strategist

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Michele A Scism - The Results Lady, Social Media and Online Marketing Strategist

Your end-of-year inbox is probably soon to be crammed with tips for end of the year and New Year goal-setting. Many are feel-good, rah-rah types of messages which are fun to read, but about as helpful as the endless “inspirational” infographics that flood your Facebook feed. And many are so generic, they were probably copied from straight from Oprah—they make you feel bad about your life while you are reading about how someone came out of nowhere and is now making 6 figures in their business. They usually leave out the fact that the person has really been working hard for the past 3 years and only got traction this year.

I am known for telling it like it is – and the truth is that you can’t succeed without goals – but you need to get them right. The goals should be attainable AND stretch you out of your comfort zone. And, they must be *yours*. You will never be excited enough about goals that don’t align with what is important to you.

Goals also are the stepping stones that will get you from wherever you are now to a profitable business that leaves a legacy and make a difference to the world, to your family, and (obviously) to you.

So, if goals are so powerful – why are we so bad and making them and following through?

What is your goal setting personality?

There are three types of people when it comes to goal-setting. You might find a clue to which type you are in the way goal-setting makes you feel.

1. You are excited about setting new goals… but you become easily distracted—and discouraged

2. Your stomach knots up into a dismal little lump of cold gravy when you try to set a goal. You put it off till later.

3. You have iron self-discipline. You set goals, and although it’s not easy for you to keep walking the straight and narrow towards them, reminding yourself of the benefits you will reap, if you stay true to your path, helps you achieve them.

Since you are reading this blog post, chances are you fall somewhere within categories one and two like most people.

Why is goal setting such a chore?

But here’s a thought that might bring a sigh of relief no matter what goal-setting type you are: Goal-setting ought to be fun. So why isn’t it? Why is it, at best, a chore: And at its worst, wishful thinking—the sort that leaves you feeling defeated in short order?

That comes because of a misconception: That your goal is the end-point of your journey. Very often, what we view as “goals” are actually steps you need to take in order to reach a goal. If you separate your journey into steps, mini-goals and end goals, or destinations, each big goal feels smaller, more manageable and more attainable.

Mini-goals and steps are the building blocks of belief. The more of these you successfully fulfill, the more easily you can believe-and-achieve your “big” goals. These small successes are the proof you can, indeed, do anything you set your mind to.

Steps can become goals in themselves—and achieving mini-goals along the way should be as satisfying as achieving your big main business goal for the year.

Here’s an important point to remember…

Steps and mini-goals are also by their nature more immediate—which leaves you less likely to procrastinate and put off starting your journey. Taking it one step at a time will make goal-setting feel more rewarding as you complete each step.

What are your mini-goals between now and the end of the year?

Michele Scism is a decisive, driven and committed entrepreneur who helps successful business owners create passive income streams so they can stop working so hard and start enjoying the benefits of entrepreneurship.

Michele’s business expertise has been highlighted recently on NBC, CBS, Fox, Entrepreneur.com and Forbes.com. She is an international speaker, best-selling author and the Founder of Decisive Minds.

She is a serial entrepreneur who knows how it feels to fail miserably at business, at one time the bank actually called demanding their $1.5 million back, and also knows how it feels to sign the contract to sell your company for $9 million dollars. For business building tips visit http://DecisiveMinds.com

© Copyright 2015 Michele A Scism

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