Anger is a very challenging feeling for many of us – one that eats up more time than we may like to admit.
What if you reframe your anger today as a useful signal that something needs to change? And then what if you promise yourself that you will grow to meet this important challenge? Keep that promise and you stand in your power.
When you embrace “the anger challenge” to solve underlying problems, you:
- Re-access energy formerly mired in resentment.
- Lower stress.
- Raise contentment.
Anger as Information:
So, let’s step back and think about seeing anger as a useful signal. Right there, if you can do that, you are initiating a very fundamental shift for yourself.
Imagine welcoming a feeling of anger as a gift that you know is going to open new doors for you. You don’t recoil from it or try to deny it. You don’t feel victimized and frustrated by the situation. Instead, you greet it with curiosity and an open mind and heart.
Gratitude for Anger? Really?
One way to help yourself do this is to enlist the power of gratitude. When you express (and genuinely let yourself feel) gratitude, you are, by definition, bringing welcoming energy to whatever you are grateful for. This welcoming energy, whether you are greeting a cherished friend with it or an angry feeling about a situation at work, opens you to possibilities that are otherwise invisible to you.
And remember, being grateful isn’t about sugar-coating anything or giving yourself or your boundaries away. It is actually a way to take back your power. When you are grateful for something you make it yours. It might sound ironic, but especially if something is disturbing or frustrating for you, gratitude is a surefire way to bring it down to size.
So it’s really simple, when you boil it down:
- Greeting your anger with gratitude means that you transform your energy from denial and frustration to welcoming openness and curiosity. “What is this going to teach me? What gifts of new insight will I come away with?”
- When you approach your anger with this openness and curiosity, you have access to all of your faculties.
- When you have access to all of your faculties, you find more time! Creative solutions that you might never have imagined emerge and time that might have been wasted on angry thoughts can be used more productively.
Do you struggle with anger? How does it manifest … and what helps?
© Copyright 2013 Paula Eder, Ph.D.