Finding time takes more than making and completing to-do lists, as you well know. For one thing, you need lots of resourcefulness and resilience when setbacks arise. Your instinctive response when plans are threatened may be to entrench yourself in rigid patterns, but that’s a temptation to avoid. It creates a cycle that can then set you back further and further.
Instead, if you feel the tug to dig in your heels when you hit a bump in the road, turn to your heart. Let yourself soften into a compassionate place, and see what bubbles up for you.
Compassion helps you get unstuck, no matter what has you in its grip. The more you cultivate compassion, the more you’ll thrive in the face of change – seeing the possibilities more than the hurdles. Compassion helps you build flexibility, courage, and creativity, too. Given life’s unending stream of challenges, fostering your power of compassion can provide lifetime strength. For example, your heart-based choice to live from your compassion helps you:
- Take reasonable risks without fear of self-recrimination. Accept that you are human, and must learn from experience. Fear that you will turn on yourself in the face of “failed” experiments could paralyze your initiative. Healthy humility helps you bounce back and put your lessons to good use.
- Use your mistakes to develop better systems. Don’t fall into the common trap of dismissing compassion as a way to “let yourself off the hook”. On the contrary, the more compassion you show yourself when you make mistakes, the sooner you will recover. Mistakes shine light on ways you can grow and expand. Compassion teaches you how to improve and move forward.
- Balance your priorities with your basic needs. Accepting that life is tough and that you need to take good care of yourself helps you pace yourself. You won’t feel drawn in by grandiose schemes, because you are comfortable with your essential self. Compassion helps you maintain clarity, balance and perspective with more ease.
Compassion enhances your energy, health, and relationships while opening exciting new vistas. You move more freely and powerfully in the world. From this position of benevolence towards yourself and others, you are energized and empowered to make better use of your time.
© Copyright 2011 Paula Eder, Ph.D.