Finding time both takes courage and gives courage. What do I mean by that? Read on …
Don’t you just love it when you feel energized, alert and confident? You easily say no to distractions. You meet your challenges, and flow from one task to the next. And there’s that special glow when you review everything you got done … you close out your day feeling content and grateful.
But then, along comes a day when nothing seems to go right. Your productivity stalls, ideas dry up, and you feel desperate and on edge. (Not only that … but what happened to your schedule?)
At times like that, I suggest that you take a moment, grab your magnifying class, and try a bit of detective work. Check out the usual suspects. Could fear be stealing your time? The more carefully you look, the more clues you will find. And you may be very surprised by where you discover this culprit!
For example, fear-fueled urgency is a sneaky time thief, because it’s disguised as a desire to save time. You might hear yourself say, “I’ve just got to do this RIGHT NOW!”
Yet, as you have probably learned, when you do jump in impulsively, you can commit time-consuming errors! Although urgency seems brash, it is really a fear-induced behavior. Understanding this gives you the power to stop urgency in its tracks.
Here’s an Urgency Antidote: Next time you feel like leaping first and looking later, ask yourself:
“What are 3 other options I have that don’t require rushing ahead?”
Notice how this helps you refocus on your own abilities. Focusing on your areas of capability reduces anxiety, because you are experiencing the abundance of your resourcefulness, instead of fearing a loss from somewhere “out there”.
Also, when you consider new options, you take a fresh look at the situation. Perhaps you will see things you overlooked, back when you were in overdrive. And those details might be just what you need to keep you on track to success.
It may seem counter-intuitive, but you can save a lot of time by slowing down and asking yourself timely questions!
© Copyright 2011 Paula Eder, Ph.D.