Finding time to make the changes that you value in your life is always going to involve letting go. You let go of something old and replace it with something new.
In many ways, it’s just that simple. However, letting go is a layered and sometimes quite challenging process. Even seeing what you might want to let go of requires willingness and a commitment to open yourself to clear vision. We live our days embedded in our habitual ways of being. To step aside from that and see it clearly takes courage … and time. And it’s a very good investment of your time!
After you’ve got a realistic sense of where you are, think about what you’d like to change. Is there an activity that you’d like to add to your day? Let’s say that you feel the need to build in time for more exercise. How can you go about doing that in a way that optimizes your ability to follow through?
Well. after you’ve recognized something that you’d like to change, the next step is to break it down further. How much time do you want to give to this activity? Will you do it once a day? More often? Be as specific as possible, because this begins to give you some sense of what you are going to need to let go of.
Next, go back and re-look at what you saw when you surveyed your day. Is there anything that you’d like to let go of that jumps right out at you? That’s the easiest place to start – the activities that you are ready and willing to jettison. If that doesn’t give you enough time for what you want to add, then you may need to trim time in other areas, or shuffle your schedule around.
What’s key here is that you first identify something positive that you want to add to your daily activities. That gives you an affirmative reason for letting go of things that you may not feel are helpful – or just aren’t as high on your priority list.
It’s not easy to let go of something you are used to – whether it’s a net positive or a net negative in your life. That’s why replacing it, proactively, with an activity that you value, will go a long way toward ensuring your success!
© Copyright 2012 Paula Eder, Ph.D.