When you were growing up, how many of you occasionally heard an adult in your life say, “Careful … you’re skating on thin ice”? I know I did – and I bet quite a few of you did, too. And I bet we all had a pretty good idea of where we were headed when we heard that phrase!
Do you ever feel like you are skating on thin ice now? I mean in your life today? Not that you’re going to get into trouble with Mom or Dad … but do you ever feel like you’re on a slippery and not-so-sturdy surface?
It’s not a good feeling … and, in fact, can be quite dangerous.
And the root of the feeling lies in losing touch with ourselves. We get busy. Lots of different tasks, people and interests clamor for our attention, and we find ourselves going through day after day after day, hardly pausing for a breath.
The longer we go on like that, the more likely we are to experience frustration, overwhelm, and feelings of victimization. Rather than leading our lives, we are being led by them. Our nerves get frayed, tempers get short, and tolerance for frustration melts away. Yes … the ice is getting thin!
And the thing is, it’s not because we are busy that we are experiencing these feelings. In all likelihood, we’re always going to be busy – that’s not the problem. The problem is that we’ve let ourselves get lost!
So what that “thin ice” feeling offers us is an important wake-up call. It’s telling us that it’s time to stop what we are doing and reconnect with ourselves … our warm, human hearts. It doesn’t have to take a lot of time. But what it does take is a commitment and a willingness to open and explore and, most importantly LISTEN. Listen to what your heart has to say.
Reconnecting with your core, your wellspring, puts your feet back under you on solid ground … no more treacherous, thin ice!
© Copyright 2011 Paula Eder, Ph.D.