Finding time to discover the childhood roots of your current relationship with time can be hugely rewarding! Indeed, there are many things that we inherit from our families, and uncovering your time legacy, so that you can make conscious choices about what to keep and what to leave behind, will be at once enlightening and freeing for you.
There may be any number of ways that you adopted an approach to time that you learned long ago and that now works against you. But the good news is that your parents’ time priorities don’t have to be your destiny – not if you engage in some detective work!
So, today I invite you to explore just how you may have come to live someone else’s priorities. When you start by seeing your history with clarity and compassion, you can accept where you are. This, in turn, gives you a solid base, as you then make choices to transform your relationship with time!
To start with, as a child, you were profoundly influenced by your family’s time choices. They taught you important messages about values – what’s important and what isn’t.
Take a minute or two, right now, to recall the family in which you grew up. How did each adult in your household spend time? Create a vivid picture in your mind of how they lived out their priorities, one day after another. Sense the fundamental and personal beliefs that guided their choices. Let the picture take shape and fill itself out.
Next, quickly jot down a few observations about their use of time.
- What came first?
- What came last?
- What message does this give you about their values?
- How do your values align with theirs?
Your answers to these questions provide you with a good starting point for exploring your current time choices. You may want to revisit this exercise to flesh out more and more details over time. As you explore, you will illuminate patterns – some of which are helpful and some which you may want to change. This is your time legacy.
© Copyright 2012 Paula Eder, Ph.D.