Find Time to Weed Out Self-Defeating Patterns and Banish Guilt Today!

By , The Time Finder Expert, Founder of Finding Time

Solo-E Certified Solo Entrepreneur Expert

Paula Eder - The Time Finder Expert, Founder of Finding Time

Finding time is especially exhilarating when you change old self-defeating patterns at the same time!  That way, not only do you find time today, but you ensure that you’ll continue to, as you replace those old habits with new ones that serve you better.

This-week-into-next we are exploring some of the paralyzing patterns that are created by what I call Guilt Myths.

Guilt Myths  are not based in reality – that’s a key fact to remember.  They are false AND they sap your energy and undermine your confidence.  So, here’s another common distortion that’s helpful to banish from your repertoire:

Guilt Myth:

“I can’t really redeem myself unless I spend all sorts of time making myself miserable.”

Heart-Based Reality:

Self-punishment doesn’t fix anything. It will only hold you back and muddy the relationship or situation that you are trying to “fix”.

Whether you’ve made a mistake or pursued a time choice that was not to someone else’s liking, it’s important to reassure yourself that you can indeed survive someone’s appropriate anger. Simply apologize and take appropriate responsibility for your end; then, let things unfold.

Rather than punishing yourself, focus on learning helpful lessons, staying positive, and moving forward.

Heart-Based Affirmation:

“I choose to feel good about myself at all times. I refuse to punish myself for mistakes. I promise myself that I will spend my time responsively and productively.”

As you ease up on yourself and weed out self-defeating patterns, you may discover that you let go of anger at others more readily, too.  Accepting your shared humanity can feel like a huge relief!

So take good care of yourself, and use this 3-step, heart-based process anytime you’d like some extra support. It can help you relax the harsh standards you apply to yourself and to others, as well. By calling on your compassion, clarity, and courage, you kick that guilt to the curb and revitalize your outlook on life!

Paula Eder, PhD is an internationally-known coach and published author who specializes in mentoring heart-based entrepreneurs and small business owners, from the inside out, to align their core values and energy with their time choices and behaviors so that they make more money, create more freedom, and find more time.  To learn more about Paula’s unique, Heart-Based Time Management™ System and begin your transformational journey, sign up for her Finding Time Success Kit. Discover how you can find time for what matters most.

© Copyright 2011 Paula Eder, Ph.D.
One comment on “Find Time to Weed Out Self-Defeating Patterns and Banish Guilt Today!
  1. I’m always fighting guilt because I want to stay productive.

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