Finding Time to Learn About Your Inner Critic

By , The Time Finder Expert, Founder of Finding Time

Solo-E Certified Solo Entrepreneur Expert

Paula Eder - The Time Finder Expert, Founder of Finding Time

Today, we identify the methods and the repercussions of this inner voice.

1. The inner critic is dualistic and absolute.

The inner critic survives on rules and regulations. Its
primary mission is to maintain the status quo; therefore,
it classifies everything as right or wrong, black or white.

2. The inner critic attacks through both words and actions.

Like a coordinated tag team, the inner critic uses both
judgmental words and controlling actions to keep you in
your place. So this subself attempts to intimidate you
into making life choices and life decisions that are
narrow and constrained.

3. The inner critic keeps you stuck.

By limiting you in one area of your life, your inner
critic inhibits your initiative in ALL areas. This
constricts your time choices, your sense of self, and
how you venture into the world.

4. Your inner critic diminishes your energy.

Like wearing clothes that are too tight, listening to the
messages of your inner critic restricts your focus and your
energy. You lose the ability to cultivate ease and flow in
your life or to look at options creatively. This cheats you
of the pleasure of actively enjoying and participating in
innovative thinking and new ideas.

5. Your inner critic is a major player in your psyche.

Your inner critic controls the master switch for several
of your other subselves. For example, after the critic
condemns, the saboteur serves as the henchman who punishes
you for being so “bad”. The perfectionist seeks redemption
by attempting to attain a static “flawlessness”. How you
see yourself can be marred by these distortions. So this
certainly inhibits your zest for life and for exploration.

Your inner critic can be all-pervasive. It attempts to impose
a stranglehold on your behavior, your thoughts, how you see
yourself, and the choices you make.

Your critic creates a closed system of negativity, hardening
your heart to yourself, to others, and to new possibilities.
It inhibits creativity and growth.

In the constellation of subselves, your critic holds a pivotal
and central position. It is intimately connected to both the
saboteur and the perfectionist.

If you struggle with perfectionism, try shifting your focus
from performance to balance. Assert to your inner critic, by
creating an affirmation and mantra, that you are “perfectly”
capable of making time choices that create a harmonious flow.

Related: Time Management Tools: Strong New Voices For Wise Time Choices

Paula Eder, PhD is an internationally-known coach and published author who specializes in mentoring heart-based entrepreneurs and small business owners, from the inside out, to align their core values and energy with their time choices and behaviors so that they make more money, create more freedom, and find more time.  To learn more about Paula’s unique, Heart-Based Time Management™ System and begin your transformational journey, sign up for her Finding Time Success Kit. Discover how you can find time for what matters most.

© Copyright 2009 Paula Eder, Ph.D.
3 comments on “Finding Time to Learn About Your Inner Critic
  1. Gerald Weber says:

    As an entrepreneur, I face my inner critic on a regular basis. You always have doubts and fears about what you can do with your business. It’s important not to let the inner critic hold you down or cloud your judgment because you can really miss out on some amazing opportunities. That’s not to say you should throw caution to the wind, but just don’t let the first negative thought crush every new idea.

  2. Paula Eder says:

    Thank you for your comment. I thoroughly agree about the importance of not letting your inner critic cloud your judgment or hold you back. And I love your point that the answer to the inner critic is definitely not to “throw caution to the wind!”

    I believe that the third path is preferable – that of countering the critic with adult questions, insights, and messages to oneself. Taking that path means bringing in that “judgment” that you refer to. Choices that are informed by balanced, adult judgment, aren’t choices that are later regretted – because they are choices that are fully owned.

  3. Ryan says:

    Hi Paula,

    I liken the inner critic to our ego. It’s that voice that tells us why we can’t do certain things, why we aren’t good enough, why we should quit before we start.

    We can be our own worst enemy or our emancipator. We were designed in the image of perfection and the more frequently that we can tap into our higher self through meditation and affirmations the less we hear our inner critic.

    Thanks for sharing your insight.

    Ryan

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