Today, we identify the methods and the repercussions of this inner voice.
1. The inner critic is dualistic and absolute.
The inner critic survives on rules and regulations. Its
primary mission is to maintain the status quo; therefore,
it classifies everything as right or wrong, black or white.
2. The inner critic attacks through both words and actions.
Like a coordinated tag team, the inner critic uses both
judgmental words and controlling actions to keep you in
your place. So this subself attempts to intimidate you
into making life choices and life decisions that are
narrow and constrained.
3. The inner critic keeps you stuck.
By limiting you in one area of your life, your inner
critic inhibits your initiative in ALL areas. This
constricts your time choices, your sense of self, and
how you venture into the world.
4. Your inner critic diminishes your energy.
Like wearing clothes that are too tight, listening to the
messages of your inner critic restricts your focus and your
energy. You lose the ability to cultivate ease and flow in
your life or to look at options creatively. This cheats you
of the pleasure of actively enjoying and participating in
innovative thinking and new ideas.
5. Your inner critic is a major player in your psyche.
Your inner critic controls the master switch for several
of your other subselves. For example, after the critic
condemns, the saboteur serves as the henchman who punishes
you for being so “bad”. The perfectionist seeks redemption
by attempting to attain a static “flawlessness”. How you
see yourself can be marred by these distortions. So this
certainly inhibits your zest for life and for exploration.
Your inner critic can be all-pervasive. It attempts to impose
a stranglehold on your behavior, your thoughts, how you see
yourself, and the choices you make.
Your critic creates a closed system of negativity, hardening
your heart to yourself, to others, and to new possibilities.
It inhibits creativity and growth.
In the constellation of subselves, your critic holds a pivotal
and central position. It is intimately connected to both the
saboteur and the perfectionist.
If you struggle with perfectionism, try shifting your focus
from performance to balance. Assert to your inner critic, by
creating an affirmation and mantra, that you are “perfectly”
capable of making time choices that create a harmonious flow.
© Copyright 2009 Paula Eder, Ph.D.