Recently I’ve been writing about some heady topics in my Morning Musings (What happens when your best isn’t good enough, Learning from Failure) and Life, Biz and the Pursuit of Happiness. And, of course, this is causing me to realize all the places where I’m not showing up in my biz and life, and where my growth edges are.
And there’s a part of me that just wants to scream “Oh for the love of God, can’t we all be healed already?”
I mean, all of this focus on healing ourselves — is there ever a time where it’s counterproductive?
It feels that way to me. It feels like we can go too far and all this “healing” and “working on ourselves” can get in the way of not only living but also growing our business.
On the other hand, if we don’t work on ourselves (which I didn’t for years) we do get stuck. And, if we’re not careful, we may find ourselves in a situation where we’re doing the same things over and over and expecting different results. (Also known as the definition of insanity according to Albert Einstein).
So where is the line? Where is the happy medium between working on ourselves enough so we keep growing and taking our lives and our business to the next level — and making healing an excuse for NOT seeing what we want in our life and business?
Because healing ourselves can become an addiction too. And, like all addictions, it will prevent us from taking the action we know we need to take.
I actually don’t know what the answer is, but my suspicion is you need to listen to your Inner Wisdom. Your Inner Wisdom will tell you when you need to just take a moment because there’s healing that needs to take place before you can take that next leap — and it will also tell you when you’re using healing as an excuse to not take that next leap.
Also, for myself, when I start to get impatient with myself is when I know I ready to let things go. Typically when I finally get sick and tired of whatever problem I’m facing, that’s the time where I’ll make some sort of statement like “Enough already. I’m so tired of this — so whatever I need to do I’ll do it. And if that means I need to breathe into this horrible feeling every day for the next 2 years, by God that’s what I’m going to do because I am DONE.”
And, strangely enough, I typically AM done after I make that statement to myself. So, I’m not sure if that statement is what completes the process or if the fact I’m only moved to say that when I’m at the end of the process. Either way, it works.
I’d love to hear from any of you how you balance working on yourself with living your life and working on your business.
Until next time.
© Copyright 2015 Michele Pariza Wacek (Michele PW)